The quality of our life today is a reflection of the choices we have made in the past - good or bad. Although we are free to make choices, we cannot choose the outcomes or consequences of those our actions. There are, however, things we did not choose like our race, our skin color, our ethnic group or tribe, the family we are born into and our gender. These are the things we are born with or born into and had no hand in becoming. They should not be a basis of bias or discrimination against us. They should also not determine what choices are right or wrong for us. Or should they? Marilyn usually goes to the barbershop every month to style her favorite haircut, punk. For her, there is nothing more refreshing than being able to run cold water down your head anytime you're in the bathroom. The feeling is an all-consuming rejuvenating coolness she can’t describe. And that’s why she loves her punk more than anything else in the world. That’s also why she will never stop cu...

Just because Girls Play Ball too. I am that girl that grew up in the midst of 4 males. My mum and I were the only females around.   I like to call our family the ‘House of Blue’ because that was the colour we kept in mind while shopping for clothes, accessories or shoes. Most of the boys were older than me and we shared hobbies. My favourite hobby, among all the things I loved doing like singing and dancing, was playing football. I can remember running to get the football as my brothers and I, ran to the community field every weekend to play football. I usually woke up earlier than the boys on Saturday's to do some morning exercises before our regular Saturday morning training. I was number 9, a striker. And I was really good at this - No goal keeper in our community could withstand my goal shots! It was so glaring that I had a future in this! As my mammary glands increased and developed, my mum’s expression of disapproval began. Each time I wore my jersey and picke...